10 essential tips to keep your marriage intact

Having never been married myself I have seen a lot of my friends and family go through a lot.  I have noted what to do and what not to do when you are married and here are ten that I think will help.

• 10 Never lie about anything.  Trust is the number one thing in any relationship if there is no trust everything goes away.  If there is something going on and you do not want your spouse to know then there is a good chance you should not be doing it.
• 9 Always think about your family.  When making decisions about anything think about how it will effect your family.  If you buy a soda from the gas station do you think that you should buy everyone a soda or something to drink.  Little things always help.
• 8 Show your soft side.  It is never a good thing to keep your feeling bottled up in side of you.  Showing your family that you are human shows that you have feeling and they can relate bringing you closer together.
• 7 Talk about everything.  Everything meaning you day, your past, and things you can both plan for the future.  The more that you talk to one another the more you know about each other.  This will also show that you are interested in what they other is say and can relate.
• 6 Learn from mistakes.  Everyone makes mistakes but note them and try to avoid them in the future.  I do not mean I cooked the roast to long more like I did not  balance the check book right.
• 5 Laugh together whenever possible.  Making someone laugh can brighten there day everyday.  When you laugh together you bonding.  Have your own inside jokes that you tell no one.
• 4 Touch your spouse when ever you can.  Hug them kiss them hold there hand.  Non verbal cues are the best way to say I love you or that you miss there touch.
• 3 Never yell at the other person.  Yelling just leads to a longer fight.  Its easier to break a person by yelling and making there thresh hold lower and that’s not good.  If a fight starts sit down and look at all aspects of why the fight started.  Fix them instead of trying to argue who is wrong who is right.
• 2 Share responsibility with the other person.  You should not be in control of everything.  You are adults and need to feel that you are important in a relationship like everyone else.  Share the choirs and child care.
• 1 Say I love you as much as you can.  The three words that make everyone feel wanted I love you.  They are powerful and they can make or break a relationship.  Wake up say I love you, walk around say I love you,  your in the shower there in the living room yell I love you, call  to just say I love you.

OK so maybe these thing won’t fix a marriage but they are good points to follow.  They have served me well as I move towards marriage.  The person you are spending your life with is the biggest choice in your life.  Good luck.