Some search diligently for something to cherish in the concept of love. Others see them as being foolish for chasing the fantasy of love. Others still, express their opinions that love hurts or love stinks. By their own admission, love exists. Many fear love and believe it is the source of their unhappiness. When, in fact, the source of unhappiness is being without love. In condemning love we suffer condemnation. We experience love as a temporary thrill that we expect will fade away. In actuality, we exhaust the supply. Love is a paradox; to continue receiving love, we must nurture love at the source. Similarly to a flower; to preserve the beauty and the pleasant aromas, we give it water, sunshine and even spread a little fertilizer when necessary. NOTE: Too much fertilizer will burn it up and the kind of fertilizer you use may cause your flower to change colors.
Another method of evaluating love may be considered as a “love bank”.You can’t expect to receive bountiful returns without a substantial investment. If you’ve gone bankrupt, it may be that you haven’t invested properly. When this happens, renegotiation and evaluations are necessary. Adjustments may be necessary to help your investments grow. If you are receiving no returns on your investments and your bank is unwilling to negotiate, it might be time to find a bank that will appreciate your investments. A love bank is not dependent on monetary increments, only investments of the heart. Every positive affirmation is a deposit that initiates interest, every negative connotation is a withdrawal (weakening your account). We need to audit our own actions accurately and reasonably, without expectations, as real love is a gift that cannot be demanded.
Be free to love. As a wine connoisseur would rinse the palate to enjoy the full bouquet of flavors in an experimental wine, we also need to rinse our palates. If we can’t clear our perceptions, the new experiences will be tainted with the previous indulgences, the true flavor will not be understood. Resolve the past, understand what made good, good and what made good, bad. Learn from the experiences in the past but don’t live in it. You can be alone and able to do whatever you want, whenever you want, and claim to be free. Yet, haunting memories of love wasted can infiltrate your heart and mind with suspicion, regret and unforgiveness that hold you prisoner to the past and compromise the future. Cut it out of your life, for the cancer that it is, for the destruction it causes, for the reality of being free to love. Bury it, love life and live for love.
Not all men or women are the same. Everyone has their own unique qualities or lack, thereof. We choose, usually for the wrong reasons, where to invest our time, passion and hopes. To expect the next one to treat you as the last one did is to offer no appreciation or understanding of their abilities or needs. In this, they may experience rejection, isolation, ridicule, humility, hopelessness and pay the penalty for what others have done.
Love is the most valuable, mesmerizing, thrilling, fulfilling, passionate and accepting attribute in life. Love doesn’t hurt or stink, but sometimes the way we handle it, does.
