The Law of Averages is both a boon and a burden to any man seeking a woman’s companionship, no matter whose dating tips they happen to be reading and studying. For most men, who’ve made no effort to study any dating tips from anyone the Law of Averages is about their only hope. It’s just like my GrandDad always said: “Even a pig finds an acorn.”
It’s one of the “Great Secrets of Man-dom” that: All you gotta do is ask enough girls out and one’s gotta say yes! Every batter that sets a home run record has a lot of strikes behind them too. Every ’handsome Joe’ that’s got a new beautiful woman on his arm every weekend heard the word ‘No’ at least nine times. You can’t win if you don’t play! If you’re not trying you’re dying! (Need I go on?)
While it’s conceivable that simply relying on your successes simply because of numbers will leave you with a woman who’s doing the same at best, and waiting many a lonely Friday night between ‘lucky streaks’ at worst, is that what you’re settling for? If ‘the numbers’ alone are what you’re planning to rely on then why are you reading this?
But, put together with the additional arsenal of skills and learned behaviors, the Law of Averages simply eases the stress for any chick-magnet-wanna-be on the town. Here’s a few dating tips that might fall within the realm of the ’inner-man.’ They’re only helping you if no one can see their effect:
Dating Tips for Losers Like Me: The Law of Averages Reminder Number Nne-
That word “No”; powerful, aint it?
No set of dating tips will help if you’re not okay with hearing and saying ‘no.‘ If it weren’t for the word ‘no’ and rejection itself then obviously, there would be no dating game, or much other challenge to anything. It’s that very rejection that scares the average, unlearned man from effort, and most of it never even happened. As you become friends with that lovely little word ‘no,’ you’ll come to see that it’s never around when you’re prepared for it.
At the very least, you’re an okay-groomed man, with good hygiene, and you smell nice. Even if you totally fumble your first few attempts at saying “Hey,” all the while coyly quasi-ignoring her, eventually some woman is going to come along, who’s nice enough herself, who will warrant a ‘Hey,” and you click! Just like that! (If you’re not like the guy just described already, then go home and fix the problem before you go out!)
So the main point here is: As long as you’re giving your truly best effort, and you’re a decent guy, don’t ever quit. Every ‘no’ is just one step closer. This allows you the flexibility to play your response cool…and never the jerk.
Dating Tips for Losers Like Me: The Law of Averages Reminder Number Two-
See the ’overall process.’
Regardless of the quality of information you learn from a set of dating tips, if you intend to only go out with just one woman this weekend, you’re going to get shot down by at least ten other women. To find those ten other women, you’re going to be told “I’m taken,” by at least ten others. So, now you’re at twenty, but hang on!
To even get a chance to ask those twenty beautiful women if they’re even available, you’ll need to have struck up a total of approximately sixty friendly conversations. (I said friendly . . . not suck-up.) That works out to ten ‘attempts’ per day in a six-day week. (Yes. Take a day off. I’m serious.)
You need to be ‘out there’ making your patented “Hey,” and quasi-ignoring-them-move on at least ten beautiful women a day. You can’t be that kind of busy sitting around your apartment scared of that big-old word ‘no.’ Just accept that you’re going to blow it . . .a lot! Good dating tips and irrational fear just don’t mix.
Dating Tips for Losers Like Me: The Law of Averages Reminder Number Three-
Turn it around on them.
Who says the woman is always the decision maker? As far as s . . . yes, by all means. But as far as whether two people are even going to want to be around each other at all, why is it always the woman? This has never made much sense to the author.
Any man looking to meet an attractive, healthy, worthwhile woman needs to allow himself the strength, maturity, and intestinal fortitude to establish the borders in a prospective new friendship. More details will be coming as to the specific mechanics of how to do that. But for now, some examples are:
Be territorial
Be decisive
Disagree when it’s honest, but without being a jerk.
Never laugh at your own jokes unless she’s laughing so hard that it’s funny.
…and several others.
But the best way to play the Law-of Averages in managing rejection within the dating game is to be the first to, subtly, offer the possibility of rejection.
Source:
Personal Experience…and a ton of strike-outs as well.
