A big part of honesty without brutality is having the ability to get your point across by being straightforward but not mean. You can do this by using a couple of easy tactics.
Body language speaks volumes. It is important to carry yourself in a confident manor. This means your shoulders are back, chin is neutral (level with the ground) and make eye contact. When you hold yourself in this position the other person knows you mean business.
Get to the point. Being honest isn’t always the easiest thing to do. This can be especially difficult depending on the conversation. One of the more common difficult positions we are put in concern breaking up. Often times dating ends in a break up. Anyone knows this can be a difficult time for both involved but especially for the person initiating the breakup. If you are straight forward and to the point it will make it easier for both parties. It’s like pulling a band-aid off. Just say it and get it on the table.
Don’t retreat. Once the issue is out there, don’t back down. You are likely to be met with resistance. Stick to your guns and go with your gut. If the conversation becomes confrontational just remember your body language. You don’t need to use harsh words or lash back, stay firm with your body and your tone.
Honesty can be difficult in any relationship, whether it’s a dating situation or a friendship. If you are faced with a difficult situation and need to address someone it is important you align your body and mind before the conversation. Remember, do not back down. Once you bring a difficult conversation forward stick with it and remain firm. You’ll get your point across without being nasty and the other person may even thank you.
