Are you a beautiful woman? Are you sure? If you are hesitating on theis questions or you went running to a mirror, you’re on the wrong track. Too many times beauty comes in a box of hair dye or in a lipstick tube. Every woman wants to be considered beautiful by those around them, yet they lack the basic skills necessary to achieve the desired results. Its time to take a look at what is going on inside the head rather than on it.
Learn to carry yourself with confidence and poise.
Women who walk well make it look like an art form. We all know people who walk with confidence. They walk with their head up and shoulders back; they walk like they have a purpose, even if the purpose is just finding a restroom. Put a small hardcover book on your head and practice walking, turning, sitting and standing. If you slouch, flop down or jump up the book will fall. The book will reinforce good posture. If you hold your head too high or too low, the book will fall. It takes practice; as you get along with a small book gradually move to something heavier.
Learn to say what you mean and mean what you say. Be honest, not vulgar.
Many women spoil themselves by simply saying something the wrong way or talking too much. There is nothing wrong with saying a man looks good. The problem arises when you begin to elaborate on what you would do with said man if given the chance.
There is a way to say everything, even in anger. If you find yourself about to tell someone exactly what you think, bite your tongue and move out smartly. Get yourself together and then come back and talk. Communication works better when both parties are not screaming insults at each other. Besides the fact that you cannot reproach someone on their behavior when yours is just as bad or worse.
Work.
Good, honest, hard work at home or in the community does wonders. It has a way of making you feel as though you have accomplished something even if it is just the laundry. Get involved at your church or with a charitable organization, doing something you enjoy is better than getting paid for something you don’t. It is a sad mistake to leave yourself nothing more to do than get dressed, put on makeup and gossip.
Be forgiving.
People make mistakes, do not beat them over the head with them. Learn to let it go. This is not to say that some form of retribution is not owed, but there is no reason to push the envelope. However, some people never learn and you should simply let them go. Do not make the mistake of filling yourself up with hate, disregard or any other negative emotion. That hurts you and not them. Its a hard task but "a kiss for a blow" (or "turning the other cheek") sets a shining example.
Adopt a good attitude.
No one wants to come home to a woman who constantly complains and never seems satisfied. In times of plenty, learn to save and be prudent so that in times of hardship the cross is easier to bear. Everyone has to do without at some point in time or another. There is no need to make it worse by complaining because you can not get your favorite coffee at Starbucks or because going to the movies turns into the HBO channel. Learn to smile and say "This too shall pass."
For those who work outside the home, take a breather. Try not to bring the stress of work home. You just got in, why upset everyone by complaining about whatever happens to be going on. So they ordered pizza, when you took out perfectly good chicken. Breath and ask everyone how their day was. Remember there is a way to say everything. Chances are if you ask in the right way you might discover why they had to order the pizza in the first place.
Be modest.
This is not to say turn yourself into a prude, especially since it’s possibly too late for that anyway. Dress the part you want to play. You can not complain when behind-the-back gossip has you looking like a tramp if that is how you behave and dress. There is a dress code to follow; wear clothing that fits. You can display the twins without everyone seeing your nipples(a good bra works wonders). Your curves can show without wearing too-tight pants and your daughter’s shirts.
Be the woman you want your daughter to model and your son to bring home. Not only does this improve the way they look at you, it will improve the choices your own children make.
Get a little self-esteem.
Not so much that you become arrogant, but enough that people trying to shoot down miss their mark. Remember, self esteem is esteem of yourself. You can’t control in some way how others see and feel about you. You can control how you feel about other people. Only you can control how you feel about you.
Being a beautiful woman is a task in and of itself. The things a beautiful woman shows is in how she behaves and what she says. It matters more in the things she does not say and do. A little modesty goes a long way.
