Love at first sight is possible. What these situations really are are convenient, rarely orchestrated, first meetings that unravel themselves in such a way that all attributes and considerations of a relationship have been revealed and answered in a positive way. So, if on your first date/meeting you have sex, cuddle, see each other naked, talk about the same interests and topics, go to the same church/other place of worship, and cry over the same movie, congratulations, you’ve found love at first sight!
OHHHhhh… so you had love at first sight and not all of those things happened? Yeah, sorry, but you more likely had lust at first sight. Here’s the difference: love needs to be based on true situations and thoughts and not just your gut instinct. I mean gut instinct is good to start to get to know a person, but not to love them! I’ve had plenty of people I know tell me they’re “in love” after a few dates, after a month, but have barely gotten to know the core strengths which will determine if they are actually destined to have a positive future together! Lust at first sight will usually be based on a lack of self-esteem or otherwise just basic desperation to no longer being single! But in either of those situations, you haven’t found Mr. or Mrs. Right… just Mr. Right Now.
So first thing to do is all 6 of those things i mentioned before. Probably not on the first date… but hey, I’ve had it happen once. Saves time… and no, it didn’t end up going anywhere. And no, not literally all of those 6 things, either. Point is you need to know the person you’re now seeing to know if you’re in love, at first sight or otherwise. Work on that and if you’ve had a run of falling for “love at first sight”, slow down, work on your self-esteem, then get back to getting serious relationships instead of the flavour of the month… or day… or hour…
