Honestly now, if you didn’t think of yourself in such high regard you wouldn’t have gotten the phone number in the first place. The first step is overcoming the fear of rejection. After talking and finding out more from this individual, you find it in yourself to request “the exchange of information”.
Traditionally the phone number exchange is usually what’s asked for at this time, but as technology gradually facilitates our communication people become more and more comfortable asking/receiving email addresses, instant messenger accounts, as well as Myspace and Facebook pages.
So now that that is over with, you carry on with your head held high and the confidence that you might have found a possible relationship. The first thing that comes to mind is if the number is even the real one….
(Although there are many forms of communication these days, I will continue to refer to the phone as my means of communication, though most of this information still applies.)
…. If you’re used to getting phone numbers, you already know that the trick is to have her call you or send you a text message. If she concurs and calls, you now have the proof. If you happen to forget, don’t sweat it. The same rules apply either way.
Now that you both have since moved along, the question arises. “When do I call her” After repeating the question to many women, I’ve come to find out that the same day caller, never gets appreciated. Desperate, Lonely, Weird are some of the terms coined with that guy.
After my extensive research solely for my own purposes, I’ve come to realize that Wednesday and Thursday are the best days to call. If you get the number on Friday or Saturday (And she doesn’t initiate a meeting that evening) you call on Wednesday. Sunday and Monday is on Thursday, and Tuesday to Thursday is Sunday.
Now when you call, make sure to have at least 6 to 7 areas you’d like to discuss. She gave you the number for a reason, now don’t disappoint her. You can talk about practically anything wholesome during the first conversation. Leave religion, politics, sex, and family out of the first conversation. These topics are sensitive zones to any relationship whether friendly or romantic.
The best time to call on Wednesday, Thursday, or Sunday is between 5:30 to 7:30. The reason why that is the best time to call, shows that you’re mindful of jobs, children, school etc. If she is a career woman who also attends school, this is the time where you will catch her. If she is only a student chances are that she has already finished her classes. And if its Sunday well that’s around the time most people are relaxing before Monday.
Don’t get upset if the phone doesn’t get answered the first time you call. Don’t let it take away from your expectations, but you must leave a message. You are no longer to call back for that day. Next day with one more BRIEF message, and the last day without a message. After that, throw the number away and forget about it. Any excessive behavior prior to the first conversation results in a red flag. Make sure you mention your name, where you met, a message to apologize for the delay in time since you last spoke and a return phone number. Never say: I can’t wait to hear from you, hope to hear from you soon, or anything along those lines.
Unless you both have nothing better to do, mind you that these times usually inflict with the everyday life, you can start the conversation with how the day was. Make sure you have something interesting to say about yours. Try to find out as much as you can without asking. Try: What do you do? Try to relate. Where are you from? Try to relate. These are some of the ice breaker questions.
The reason we want to call during inflicting times is to not talk. The answering machine is our friend as well. See when women are busy or can’t pick up the phone, they tend to feel more at ease when they call us back. They’ve gotten their head together; they know what they want to ask you, they have their own set of questions prepared.
Try your hardest not to commit to a first date during the first phone call. Leave that for the second or third conversation. And when the time is right and you do finally decide to make that step to ask for the first date try something unusual. For instance the DAY DATE will never fail you. Lunch and a museum or a park is always respected.
The daylight prides in value and distinction from simple dinner and movie dates. If you have a show in mind or a small concert is available those will do as well. More topics of discussion should be prepared prior as well, just to defeat any moments of silence. The date should end normally around 7:30 the latest. And if all goes well, she’ll continue the evening with other suggestions.
P.S. this is all if she doesn’t call you first. If in case she does call firs, try to remember everything else. Good luck.
