Life is unfair. And it’s not fair that life is unfair. I happened to read this somewhere on the ‘net and this got me thinking, is that really so? No doubt there are injustices but I feel it is only when one rises above self pity and fights against any kind of inequality that one is able to make the world around us a better place for ourselves. I won’t say that life is unfair
When I look back upon my life, I realise that things have never ever turned out the way I wanted them to, hoped, expected them to. And there were times when I simply felt like giving up and let things take their own course. But at the same time there have been some unexpected surprises, pleasant ones that have more than compensated for other mishaps in my life. This made me realise that there is a semblance of balance somewhere in life. I am sure most people go through life in a similar fashion except a lucky few who have everything neatly chalked out. They get the best of everything, but I still won’t say that Life is unfair..
I remembered a few quotes of Dalai Lama that I happened to read sometime back
1, Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it - I love this quote; there is so much wisdom in those words!
2, Follow the 3 R’s Respect for Self, Respect for Other’ and Responsibility for all your actions
3, Live a good , honorable life. When you get older and think back you will be able to enjoy it again
4, Take into account that Great love and Great achievement involve Great Risks - this I agree wholeheartedly, nothing is easy in life.
Personally speaking, however much you might listen to great advice and wise sayings from great wisemen, your life is, after all, your own and only you can live it the way it presents itself to you. I have always felt that life is one big compromise, but as long as there is a certain amount of happiness and satisfaction derived in having done a job well it is worth it. The knowledge that life is more or less the same for most people, makes you less distressed. I have always felt better when a friend comes up with her own story filled with some disillusion and some happiness, it makes me feel that life is not unfair.
I have always had this feeling of living on the edge, has anyone else felt this way? It is almost as if I am waiting for something to happen, some change to come my way, almost as if I am on the verge of being, seeing, doing something drastically different. I have had this feeling for many years now. The other day I spoke to a psychologist friend of mine and this issue of mine came up amidst other discussions of similar nature. And she said that I was independent natured and felt restricted in my present surroundings and life and hence the feeling! Maybe she is right. But can I change all of my life? It is impossible to do so now. There are many things to be considered and one cannot wipe the slate clean and start afresh–or can they? I wonder, is this what life has to offer? If so, I still do not say that life is unfair.
Positive attitude and positive outlook is what makes a person confident enough to tackle life and its many twists and turns . I have felt that one’s strength comes from within, from one’s convictions, by being confident and positive and accepting responsibilities for one’s actions no matter what. It eases one’s mind and keeps it stressfree. Sometimes thinking from one’s head is far more productive than thinking from one’s heart . I guess thats what some call as cool thinking!
Fairness and unfairness in life is subjective .So, it makes sense to see it from others’ point of view as well. It is better to cooperate, compromise and earn rather than demand. If one leads a life on those lines one will never be able to say that life is unfair.
