We all have a story about an EX, but how many of go on and on about it until our friends and family delete us from their existence! There are many circumstances rallying around these discussions but repeated conversation about any subject should be curtailed. I once dated a man who could not stop talking about his Ex-wife. He spoke as if they were still together but they had been separated for 2 years! He always spoke wonderfully about her, but it was over the top. I finally asked him why he wasn’t still with her? He said she was too controlling. How ironic, since she was still controlling him.
I think we have all had at least one relationship scenario that we drove ourselves, and everyone else crazy. Hopefully we only do it once! It is difficult when you have friends who take two years to get over every broken relationship. They practically build a shrine around old photos and greeting cards from a past EX and then rehash over and over all the reasons why they should still be together.
Have you ever noticed the quiet EX is always the one most respected? I think men are better at not reacting, they leave it up to us "bunny boilers" to dig our own hole in the public eye. When you are on a date and you are talking constantly about an Ex, you are not over them, regardless of whether something nasty or nice is said. If you were truly finished with your EX, why would they be the main topic on your date?
How about the people who break-up every 2 weeks, tell you the horror stories about their EX and then get back together with them after you know all the sorted details right down to their sex life, or lack of. If you offer an opinion, they become defensive. If they involve you continually, you have every right to voice your concerns. On the other side of the coin, how does Ashton Kutcher stand the whole threesome thing with Bruce Willis and his wife Demi Moore? It is always wonderful that you can get along with an EX for the sake of the kids, but traveling with them on your family vacation is just odd. Even after a breakup some people stay in love with their Ex even after many years apart. They end up in another relationship and go through the motions that they are really happy and have moved on, even getting married to someone else. Many times it is a rebound, or they settle just to “move on” past the hurt.
Occasionally, people really do only have one true love and it simply cannot be replaced. (Which is why some people never remarry when a spouse dies.) If you can’t be with the one you truly love, take the lessons you learned, move on and allow love to enter on another path. We are meant to go through life sharing our love not to be reclusive or lonely. There is someone for everyone and not necessarily till death do us part.
