School is just about out. My children will be spending the summer with me, and I cannot wait. Sure I can wait to hear all the arguing, yelling at each other, and winning that they share with me and themselves daily, but I cannot wait to get to know them better.
When I say "Get to know them better", I bet you are puzzled. No, i am not an absentee mother. No, I do not ignore my children, nor do I leave them alone all the time. I just mean they are each going through different stages in their lives, each one with something I may or may not see. It is so wonderful to discover your children, by spending time with them, talking to them, and doing various activities with them.
I for one am going to take advantage of that this summer. I will have one still in Elementary and two in Middle school, I am sending my second child into Middle school this coming up school year and frankly, I am a little weary about it. Not that she is not socially ready, academically ready, but that she is a follower of sorts, and I hope all the bad influences do not reek havoc on her curious mind. Middle school for the first year can be difficult for some, I know my oldest had a time of it. I do hope my second child will not.
You know, worries of a mother, that I have. My son who will still be in Elementary school will be all by himself. I hope that transition does not pose a problem for him, who knows, maybe it will make him more of an independent person. I love spending time with each and every one of them,and my friends some share that opinion, and some do not. They would rather be doing their thing while their kids go from house to house, place to place. I for one do not just send my children anywhere they wish, I must first check it out, know all the information and no what to expect. My children know this so I get little fight when I ask a lot of questions. My children also enjoy the Library, the pool, the skating rink, and they love it when I go to. Really, I am not just saying that, they beg me to go with them.
At a time when most kids are pushing parents away, mine still want me around. My kids are great, like I said already. This summer I hope to get out with them and do more and different things. My husband worls too many hours, and he usually is tired when he gets home, so it will be up to me, which I do not mind. I love having my kids around me, whether it is in a store, church, or at a friends house.
Now don’t get me wrong, I do not need to be around them twenty four seven, but i don’t mind if out of that I have about four hours with them, a day. I do enjoy time alone with my friends and husband, and myself , like any one does. Summertime is fun and when I think of summer, I think of time with my children. If you have children you might ought to think about doing fun and interesting things with them. Maybe you just talk to them, get to know what they think about things. Get to know their likes and dislikes, their friends and enemies. You would be amazed how much they would appreciate your interest. Most parents spend too much time telling their children to be quite, to go to their rooms, and not enough time talking with them, or better yet, listening and loving them. Just some "food for thought".
