When you think of your co-workers most of the time you think man how lazy can they be or I do all the work and they get all the glory. Every so often there will be wow did you see that new secretary or holy cow did you see the butt on the new delivery guy. Whatever the case attraction is the first step in any relationship. Now the question in standing is: are office relationships a good or bad idea? Well to me I think it can be both. There are a lot of pros and cons to having a spouse or boy/girl friend where you work. I myself have been with my now fiance for over a year. We meet at work and are expecting out first child in October. The use of the work place as a dating service how been going on now for as long as business has been around.
The first question you have to ask your self ”what kind of person am I?” This is a big first question for your self because if you are a person that like there space and does not like there personal life out in the open well then an office relationship is not for you. If you are a person that has a problem with showing feelings in public well again not for you. A person that is not afraid to show there affection in public but know when I’m at work I need to be professional is the perfect person. Like everything else in life nothing is perfect. Now to the pros and cons of this question.
I will start with the cons first:
- The person will always be there so the feeling of being over whelmed may set in.
- You will see the person everyday and sometimes for more than you can handle.
- If there is a break up there could be severe problems and both of you may be fired.
- Some places of business forbid inter office relationships.
- When your away from work this leaves less to talk about.
- Any you say or do at work will get to the other person and fast.
- Not showing your feeling at work may be seen as dislike or shame.
I know there are alot more but the seven there are the top. It does not always happen that way but it can so be very careful.
Pros are always better to look at cause there good and that is why I put them second.
- You grow closer to the person you are with knowing what they do and seeing the face everyday.
- You know what they are doing during that time yeah seems controlling but it gives a comfort for relationships.
- You can talk with others about your partner and they will know who you are talking about most of the time.
- The chance to talk about work stresses and relate to what the other person is going through.
- Knowing that the other person is a professional but they have there fun side that only you may know about.
- Secrets that you will have that no one else in the office knows.
- The ability to get to know the other person on a professional and social level seeing all sides of them.
Relationships are a beautiful thing when they work out, but can be hell it they do not. The words I love you are the most sought out words in the entire history of language. It ties together two people in a bond of emotions. Often times it is said and the meaning is not there. So when saying these words be very careful. It hurts a lot more if you say it and do not mean it than if you never say it at all. I hope this helps everyone that seeks the information. Thank you and good luck.
