All women like sex most of the time. Some women even love sex some of the time. Quite possibly the greatest pop culture inspiration for the 21st century woman came in the form of the sexually shameless HBO series (and later, full length movie) Sex and the City. Suddenly, there’s a new breed of woman - the sex-loving woman!
Those daring enough to be independent as opposed to dependant, to fulfill their sexual desires before marriage and motherhood. Why, many of these women even have multiple partners! With insatiable needs, they are slaves to self-gratification. Suddenly, the playing fields are beginning to level themselves! 10 years ago, women would be labeled as "trashy" and "loose" for having 10 sexual partners by men who have had 3 times more! Now, establishing a sexual identity as a woman isn’t as repulsive as previously believed. Suddenly, it’s become more of an admirable and - dare I say it? - desirable trait!
"Sexuality offers us the opportunity to learn to move gracefully between desire focused in intense body experience and desire infused with concern for the other." - Judith V. Jordan, PHD (Director of the Jean Baker Miller Training Institute)
Sex and love are no longer required to be lumped into the same category for women. You can love without having sex, and you can have sex without loving. And this isn’t only exclusive to men, as it previously has been. Women can embrace lust and gratification as integral aspects of daily life. Too many people are like trains. They tell you "This is the right way" and they just go back and forth on a single track. And there are people looking to please these trains, so they go back and forth on a single track with them, although it doesn’t feel right. These sex-loving women are helicopters. They can go forward, backward, up, down, flip, circle, you name it! There’s a full 360 degree view, and nothing standing in their way!
Sex-loving women are able to express themselves verbally with much more ease than reserved and traditional women. The turn-on of talking dirty is that most women aren’t explicit about sex the rest of the time. It’s the concept of "Lady on the streets, and a freak between the sheets." Women are more likely to be detailed verbally about their sexual encounters with other women. So in the bedroom, when woman are more vocally expressive about what they’re feeling, what they want to feel, and what they want their MAN to feel, that alone could be enough to fulfill a fantasy, for both parties.
Taking charge of your sexual lifestyle can benefit you in more ways than just being physically gratified. You can translate the assertiveness and determination you exert in pleasing yourself and your partner into your work life as well. Women who know what they want in bed are more likely to know what they want in other aspects of their lives. These women are not only role models - they’re experts!
