Life is tough. That is a fact. No one said it was going to be easy. And being single does not really make it any easier. However, one can find many ways to take advantage of living in singledom and make the most out of it! If you’re unhappy, it is probably because you’re making it that way—you are making yourself unhappy. It is never good to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship.
It is often worse than being single anyway, so why not enjoy it? Besides, how bad is it to be single? What is wrong with the word single? These are the things that I enjoy about actually being single rather than being hooked into a relationship. Not to say that finding the right person is not a blessing, because it is, but staying in singledom has its advantages. Here are some things I did (and is still doing) while I was single.
1. Know thyself. This may sound silly, but couples involved in a relationship often forget who they really are. They usually leave behind their identity as individuals only to mold themselves to the person their partner wants them to be. And that’s just not right. One may be in a relationship but that does not necessitate you losing yourself in the process. Spend some time alone, grab a book, watch a few movies, hang out with your friends. You do not need someone to identify you. Do not forget what you are and what you are passionate about.
2. Enjoy your freedom. Having to be able to go anywhere, anytime is a privilege. Face it, once you are in a relationship, you have to consider the other person. For now, you only have to consider yourself. (Yea!) So enjoy it! A bit of self-indulgent won’t hurt. Do what you please. Because once you are cuffed in a relationship, you will certainly miss such freedom.
3. Spend time with your family. Yes, I know that each and everyone’s family can sometimes be a real pain, but one should cherish his or her family members. Why? Only because they will love and accept you no matter what. I think this is reason enough to just wait and not rush in in a relationship. And until you find the right one for you AKA the one who will wholeheartedly accept and love you, your family members have your heart in their best interest. Revive game night, revive Friday movie night, and order pizza. Your family may bug the living daylight out of you, but they deserve your time, respect, and love.
4. Have a hobby. I’m not talking about shopping or watching a movie or whatsoever you do all the time. I am asking where your heart is inclined and what your passion is. Do you love to write? Take some time off and write a short story or poem. Want to dance? Get a friend and enroll in a jazz class. Want to cook? Go to your local center or community college and take a class there. Not only would it be amusing and insightful, you can meet some new people as well!
5. Get out and enjoy! It may seem obvious, but once you are a part of a relationship, you get to do this a lot less. Go to bars and have some drinks with the girls! Go to Las Vegas for a weekend! Enjoy being single while you still can! This will not last forever, to do something crazy, something spontaneous that you will never forget!
6. Focus on your career. It is almost impossible to further one’s career when involved in a relationship. How can one focus on his or her career when they are worrying about their personal life? If you are single, perform some extra work. You might be looking at a raise or promotion in the near future. All you need do is focus, and the rest will just follow.
7. Indulge. Go purchase an awesome pair of pumps, a new outfit, that expensive watch you are eyeing on, the perfume you have always wanted, heck, you might even want to go to an exotic island for a vacation. You only have to buy items for yourself, right? So why not give yourself something that will make you feel good.
8. My last piece of advice is to stop trying! When you are worn out from nights out and from bar hopping, it will all tire you! If you believe in fate, then the person will come to you when you least expect! Truth be told, when a woman looks confident and independent, she will look attractive to a guy.
Remember, life is too short, so please try not to spend it feeling miserable. Being single need not be a bad thing, if you realize and recognize that you are a fantastic individual, someone else will too.
